Dream Guys And Checklists
The reality can be worked out.
I am not sure how I ended up with my must-haves for a beau, but they included — a well-defined six-pack; strong firm muscles, six feet tall and skilled in martial arts. So yea, the first guy I dated had those but he wasn’t so tall. Second guy was tall, had no firm muscles, but he was slim and had no martial arts skills.
Lest I forget, I had a thing for leather and superbikes. (Where did I ever get these ideas from?). Yup, that was in there too.
Years later, after I had been schooled in life and experienced a spiritual awakening, I met him.
To begin with, the only thing he had on my list was height. Brother was much taller than me, but he was bald, had lots of body hair and no bulging biceps. There were definitely no six-packs in sight and he even had man boobs!
Some time ago, these would have bothered me, but maybe it was because of my new-found relationship with God and a budding maturity in spiritual matters, it all didn’t matter any more.
And this is not a case of settling for less, it was the realization that there was so much more going on here than just these physical attributes. I loved our conversations — they were deep, meaningful, insightful. Let me borrow a line from The Duke of Hastings in Netflix’s Bridgerton, “we found something far greater — friendship.”
At one point, I thought he was in fact too perfect. Of course along the way, we started seeing the flaws, but heck, I love him warts and all.
After about 10 years together, he learned to ride a superbike, all thanks to one of my clients at the time who runs a riding school.
Then a few years later, he signed up for Karate classes. The kids and I had signed up a few months earlier. (I have always admired martial arts and have wanted to study one or two — Aikido and Karate topping my list).
Slowly but surely, the muscles are firming up (including the man-boobs) and did I forget to mention that baldness is sexy?
I’d say it’s OK for a girl to dream or to have her dream guy checklist, and yes, he can come true. It’s just that he may not show up ready-made, but eventually he will become a reality if he keeps doing the work.
